Empowering Single Mothers to Seek God First - Trina’s Story
Giving women a platform to share their story has the potential to change the world. We’ve seen it through organizations like Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence, the #MeToo Movement, and now Boss Babe Networking.
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We sat down with Trina Harris to hear her testimony. She had a remarkable message to share to the world. This is what she said..
“I believe our family is our first ministry.”
Let’s start with an introduction. Tell us about yourself. Feel free to share your business, your life’s mission, and what brings you joy.
My name is Trina. I am married, we are a blended family of four kids. We have been married for 11 years now in February. I have my Master's in Social Work. God has me in multiple areas. He has me in entrepreneurship and in the marketplace. I am in the Air Force Reserves and the Program Director for a Christian nonprofit where we assist single moms, which is really where my gifting is. My desire is to really serve moms to seek God first, and then grow in their talents and their giftings to truly impact the mission from the home to the marketplace. I truly feel like if you can't make an impact in the house, as a mom, there's no reason why you should be trying to make an impact outside of the home. I believe our family is our first ministry. I help women heal and dig into those childhood traumas so that it does not keep them paralyzed. I've seen too many mothers completely paralyzed and not utilizing what they were created for on this earth to be.
Here at BBN, we’re all about sharing Women’s stories. Tell us about a time you had to overcome an obstacle? What did that moment in your life teach you?
A recent thing that I've had to overcome and heal from was an abortion I had at 15 years old before I had my oldest son. I was faced with this in 2019. I thought I had healed from it. But then recently with Roe v Wade overturning and really having to dig deep and asking myself “Why is this still a trigger?”. I feel like when things trigger you, it's because there's an area that has not been healed. I recently had watched a documentary of women who weren't the ones getting the abortion, but the ones that used to work in Planned Parenthood. I heard their sides of the stories along with their impact and their own personal traumas of why they ended up in the field in the first place. Through that film, I got to offer forgiveness for the individuals who had performed my abortion at 15 years old. I went through a journey of writing a letter to my unborn baby who is in heaven. My desire is to help mothers heal through that wound. Because I'm now 36 years old, and I'm just healing from it. I think it's something that most women don't realize it would follow them until they heal from it. I know it's a sensitive subject to many people. But I am on the other side, and I am very much pro-life and not just pro-life, I want to walk with women from birth to the tomb.
“And it's funny, because the Lord was like, you need to share this right now.”
What do you believe is the biggest challenge women in business face?
Themselves. I think we get in our own ways, I think we get so boggled up with the spirit of fear, which can be so debilitating. I say not making a decision is still making a decision. I think we can get stuck into fearing making a decision, because it possibly may be the wrong one, versus just making the decision and learning the lessons if that necessarily isn't the particularly correct one for that time. I think we have silenced our voices for long enough. I don't mean to be loud. I don't think being loud really makes a difference. I think there's so much noise in the world and so many people being loud. By using our voice to really influence, there's power in our words. There's life and death as in the power of the tongue. I think being able to have the timing of what words to say, when to say it and how to deliver that message. But I think we can get stuck in our own heads. It's something that I'm still learning to get out of the way and say, “You know what, I'm just gonna put it out there. Whatever happens, happens.” Just be fearless with what you say and do. I don't think anybody is silencing our voices anymore. I think it's ourselves silencing our own voices because of indecisiveness and fear.
What did the younger version of you want to be when you grew up?
I don't think I had any dreams when I was younger because I grew up in a neighborhood where there necessarily weren't dreams. It was survival mode, so I survived. And as a woman, I am learning to thrive so to tell that little girl now is to dream big. But that's really challenging to do when you're in Fight, flight or freeze mode as a child. I didn't necessarily have big dreams. After my abortion, I had my first son at 16 so I was still very much in survival mode. But as I grew, I knew that I just wanted to help people like myself. I want to say that was always innately in me. As a kid, I was always trying to put the mask on somebody else, and not myself. Now that I have a daughter who is eight, I'm always instilling in her and allowing her the freedom to pray big, dream big and expect big.
What advice would you give Women in Business?
Just do it. We're going to fail. I would say my advice is don't be scared of failing.
Where can our readers connect with you online? Feel free to add your social media links, websites, etc.
Instagram: Warrior_harris
Facebook: Trina Harris
